There’s a thought provoking article in this month’s issue of Relevant Magazine (the entire issue can be viewed online by clicking the link and entering your e-mail address). The article that caught my attention was called “Church Mutiny” and it was written by a young adults pastor in Florida.
The premise of the article is essentially that ministries for young adults, generally speaking, start as a form of rebellion against their own churches. They are a way for young adults to get what they want without leaving their churches. Young adult ministries thus reduce inter-generational relationships and are bad for churches.
Needless to say, as a former (and hopefully future) college pastor, this caught my attention.
About three years ago I helped start a college and young adult ministry at the church I worked at. Words like “rebellion” and “mutiny” were not a part of the vocabulary of the small team of us that cooked up the idea of starting a worship service for young adults, but I’d be lying if I didn’t say that there was a general sense among us that the needs of young adults were not being adequately met by inter-generational church programs. We liked our church (and our jobs!) and we didn’t want to leave, but we knew something had to be done to better reach young people with the Gospel. So we started our own service with the blessing of the church, and it was pretty successful. I’ve since moved on, and the service has continued to flourish, even without a full-time staff leader.
According to the author of the Relevant article, who himself has led a fast-growing young adult ministry for several years now, that sort of model may not be healthy. Here are a few quotes from the article:
“The attitude (rebellion) is rarely named. We prefer to cloak it, to explain it away as a simple difference in musical tastes, or as an aversion to getting up early on Sundays But let’s call it what it is. Rebellion. Mutiny.”
“This season-of-life segregation in our churches–that pastors like me have been responsible for creating–has fed the consumerism monster and turned many church leaders into babysitters who try all sorts of toys and treats to keep the different babies from crying.”
“Relationships formed over a lifetime with people who are just like you is, honestly, a form of self-worship.”
“…the ownership of this tension (the tension between generations in churches) must be shared. Older generations have spent much time trying to prove themselves as a worthy ‘captain’ of the ship. They have chosen not to heed the younger voices around them as contributing members of leadership. The truth is, churches still only hire young people to work with young people.”
The article then goes on to talk about the need for intergenerational ministry and the needs for both the young and the old to learn to work together to carry on the work of the Kingdom of God. The author rightly criticizes the use of the phrase “Next Generation” to refer to youth and young adult ministries, as it implicitly devalues the contributions younger generations can make to the life and leadership of a church.
I’m not entirely sure what to think of all of this. In a sentence, I think the author overstates the ‘rebellious’ nature of young adult ministry, but he also makes a number of valid points.
On the one hand, generational separation is problematic, and I began to see this towards the end of my tenure at my old church. It was very difficult to foster relationships between older adults and younger adults when they attended different church services. On the other hand, the young adult service provided a legitimate function, and it was something that younger people could relate to. I’ve been pleased to hear that recently my old church has been fostering intergenerational relationships by encouraging young adults to join small groups with older adults. This seems like a great way to foster these relationships while allowing people of different life stages to attend worship services where they can connect with God.
I really think the author of the article is on to something when he talks about the need for shared leadership. I believe there is a mutual distrust between younger adults and older adults, and there is general desire to gain and grasp power that afflicts many of us with leadership gifts (to our shame). That distrust and power hunger will have to be overcome if generations are going to work together, but I believe it certainly can be.
What do you think? Are separate young adult ministries good or bad for churches? Why?